To be worthy of the title “Best Friend” in my life isn’t easy. And it’s not because I see myself as a more superior being who is too good for anyone, but more from personal experiences that led to this uneasy feat.
In all honesty, I sometimes don’t believe that I even have a “Best Friend”. The title of having a best friend seems very elementary to me and it’s probably because the two friends that I consider to be a best friend are from my elementary days. Yes, these two friends are still in my life, but no, I do not get to see them as often as I would like.
When you Google “Best Friend”… here’s what you get.
the one friend who is closest to you.
The word closest is a little fuzzy in my books. Some people would say it means that you and your BFF will do everything together. Tell each other everything. Talk everyday about important stuff or useless stuff. When something good or bad happens, they are the first person you think of telling. Does that define my relationship with my best friends? Not really. Does that mean they aren’t my best friends? I don’t really know. I’d like to think not. And I definitely won’t sit here and lie to myself that my vision of a best friend wasn’t exactly what I wrote above. I can easily blame how I was raised by strict parents, which limited my ability to actually do “everything” with a BFF, but it appears the older I get, the more I see things in a different light.
The truth is no two people are alike. My interests, my hobbies, my career choice, my likes and dislikes. The path I chose and the path my best friends chose are nowhere close to similar, yet, whenever we do make time for each other, I can still tell them everything and that has got to count for something right?
Being best friends, to me, is more than just doing everything together. A best friend will always be there at the right times, and will always let you walk your own path. And if you matter to them as much as they matter to you, your paths will always cross every so often and you can pick up exactly where you left off.
It’s either this, or I’m trying to make myself feel better about the recent departure of a best friend. She left the country, but she’s always been an ambitious one. I couldn’t be happier for her and I know our paths will cross again. BFFs.